The following is a guest post from Lauren Zander Handel, author of Maybe It’s You: Cut the Crap, Face Your Fears, Love Your Life.
Manifesting [man-uh-fest-ing] verb – the act of causing something or bringing a specific result to fruition by thinking and feeling a certain way. Using imagination to create reality — if you see it and feel it, it changes how you operate moment to moment. The consciousness alters the next action.
Many people roll their eyes at the notion of manifesting [I know, not you or my brother, mother, father, and on fewer and fewer occasions, one of my sisters, etc.] It sounds an awful lot like new-age mysticism, or what I like to call “woo woo” spirituality. I am not in the business of fortune-telling or wish-granting. I tend to engage in a more straightforward way of making things happen in your life, not by wishing but by designing and causing it.
And yet, manifesting remains an important element of The Handel Method®, the coaching technique which I created and developed at MIT, and have subsequently taught to students, educators and researchers at Stanford Graduate School of Business, Columbia, NYU, public schools and private institutions of learning worldwide.
Without burning incense or consulting a crystal ball, I have gotten rooms full of science majors to practice manifesting, as well as neuroscientists, business undergrads, CEO’s, entrepreneurs, and grade school children. Across the board, all of my clients – even those who remain skeptical – report that the act of manifesting their dreams and goals was a pivotal step in achieving them.
- Create a vision in your mind of your world as it would look if the wish came true. Go to the future and be with the ideal husband or in the perfect dream home. Put yourself into the scene doing whatever you would be doing – peeling carrots in your new kitchen? Create a sentence you would say in that moment. “It feels so good to be home”
- Repeat the scene and the statement over and over again in your mind, while
your body is still. Meditate on it. Get emotional. Do whatever it takes to bring forth the actual feeling you’d have upon discovering that wish had come true. The best time to do this is in a state of deep relaxation – try it right before you go to sleep.
- Do not use mental energy figuring out HOW to fulfill your wish. Allow your mind to linger on
the feeling of having, not of wanting. Look for, expect, and celebrate signs that your wish is coming true! Consider everything a sign.
SIDENOTE: If you can’t envision the dream scene or deeply feel the feeling, there is work to be done. This should not feel like a bandaid on a painful issue, or a prayer you are hoping will be answered. If there is any fear or unresolved issues around this specific desire, table it until you have time to work it out. In the meantime, practice manifesting something in an area of your life you’re already confident. Love golfing? Manifest a hole in one!
You have to meet magic half way.
The reason most people don’t have great success with this practice – and the reason I hesitate to teach it to new clients – has to do with physical integrity. Even if you truly believe in the power of “positive thinking,” you won’t have much success if you’re not matching your efforts with your thoughts and actions. You can’t wish to win the lottery if you don’t play, right? Manifesting your dream partner won’t work if you’re on the couch eating potato chips. When your mind is on the side of your dreams (and not fixated on your fears) you think and act in a radically different way, and you bring about a radically different set of results.
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Lauren Zander, Handel Group Co-Founder