By Ralph White, Co-Founder, The Open Center
It is a secret known to many wisdom traditions that facing the reality of death on a daily basis and being aware of its inevitability for all of us is not a morbid fascination. It is, instead, a key to living the fullest and richest lives possible. Why do Tibetan monks spend nights in a graveyard holding a skull in one hand and meditating upon death? Not for some otherworldly tantric ritual but to imprint deeply on their body/mind the inescapable message – life is finite, it will slip away before long, that skull will soon be yours. Therefore make the most of each day and pour your heart and soul, and your sense of meaning into everything you do!
Unfortunately, we live in a culture in which the topic of death has been taboo. It has been medicalized to the point that few people actually experience it. Dying has become an inconvenient truth which we would rather forget. Instead of using death as our advisor, as the Yaqui shaman Don Juan encouraged, we try to forget about it – to our detriment.
Fortunately, there are moves afoot in this world to remedy this situation. The New York Open Center, the city’s leading venue for holistic learning for the last 33 years, has been offering the Art of Dying Conference since 1995 dealing with spiritual, scientific and practical approaches to living and dying. This event takes the view that today there is a clear call to talk about death in new and more open ways and to consider how our views of death impact our experience of life. It operates from the perception that our culture is awakening to a more conscious view of our own mortality and post-death possibilities.
This forum for engaging with both professional and lay participants about the greatest of all life’s mysteries aims to address these questions: How can we work more compassionately and intelligently with the dying? How can our own death and the death of those we love be faced with courage and awareness? Does consciousness survive death and, if so, what might we expect? How can death become much less frightening both for ourselves and for our loved ones?
The NY Open Center will offer the Art of Dying 6 in New York in mid-October but this event is just part of an ongoing effort to deal more honestly and wisely with the whole phenomenon of grief and loss.